Don't know how to talk to a woman? - If you already know her and she knows you #4

Don't know how to talk to a woman? - If you already know her and she knows you #4 - If you already know her and she knows you—even if only a little—one effective way to approach her is by asking for her advice. But be smart about what kind of advice you ask for. If you truly want her to take you seriously, never ask her about other women or about intimate, sentimental issues. That’s not only inappropriate, but it will make her feel like you’re trying to emotionally manipulate her or use her as a stand-in therapist. That’s not attractive—it’s off-putting.

Instead, ask for her opinion or help specifically in her field of work—especially if it’s a domain where you don’t have much expertise. This does two important things: first, it shows that you trust her. Second, it communicates genuine respect for her professional skills and intellect. It tells her you see her as more than just a pretty face—you recognize and value her competence.

Of course, this only works if your professions are different. If you’re both in the same field, it might come off as patronizing or fake. But if she’s an architect and you’re an engineer—or if she works in marketing and you’re in IT—it makes sense to ask her insight on something where she clearly has the upper hand.

You can also approach her in areas where she knows you don’t naturally excel. This is a bit more delicate, because men can and do excel in every domain—fashion, cooking, design, communication, you name it. So this part depends on your honesty with yourself: find something where you could use a feminine perspective, not because you’re incapable, but because you value her input.

When you do this right, she won’t see you as weak—she’ll feel honored. Why? Because trust, especially when it's expressed through vulnerability in a specific area, is one of the most powerful compliments you can offer a woman. It shows that you’re self-aware, emotionally intelligent, and confident enough to ask for help without feeling diminished by it.

So no, you're not handing her your power—you’re sharing a moment of connection. That’s what matters.