The Ugliness in Mean People - Let’s talk about beauty.

The Ugliness in Mean People

Let’s talk about beauty.

The eyes see what they can see, and the heart wants what it wants. But how many times has someone beautiful made you run faster than light — in the opposite direction?

Yes. Ugly, isn’t it?

Beauty is defined by those who have seen it. Ugliness is defined by those who wear it.

And since women more often act like divas, let’s talk about what can turn a beautiful woman into an ugly one.

Of course, the first thing that can be noticed is the way she walks.Some men notice a woman’s walk — they watch how she moves because they are interested in whether she has that feminine grace, which in their minds is something a woman must have.

The second thing is how she talks.

From a live conversation with a woman, the first thing that stands out is whether or not she has something in her brain. The more you talk to her, the more layers you add to her profile:Is she a calm woman?Is she educated?Does she have common sense?

And the more you interact, the more her behavior tells you about her. You may eventually realize that she’s toxic. Time passes, and you start to notice that you no longer see in her what you once saw at the beginning.

Let me give you a real example — lived by me — with a woman.To show you that not only men can suffer because of a woman like this.

(And yes, I am heterosexual.)

At work, I was minding my own business. I’m usually a calm person — because I don’t like arguments. I accept a lot — until I don’t accept bullshit anymore.

I got along well with my colleagues, especially the men, with only a few exceptions that I could easily ignore. Everyone minded their own business. I’ve always wanted to do my job well, and because of that, I was okay with almost everyone.

Until — out of nowhere — things started to change. Why?Because of another woman. A jealous one. And she began to attack me — and my work.

Not directly — she had no power over me.She was worse than that.

She started to sabotage my work — work that I was genuinely trying to do well.When you look at a woman and say, “She’s ugly,” you really have no idea how ugly a woman can actually be.

The one who sabotaged me hurt me a lot. She made my job harder, made me double-check my work all the time, and she caused me to lose trust in the people I worked with. She made fun of me. She made fun of my work. But also — she mocked our employer and his business.

Because let’s be clear — our work generated profit, and from that profit, he paid us.So she wasn’t just disrespecting me — she disrespected her job and the one who paid her.

Many people have seen a jealous woman.But what can you really see in such a woman?

What did I see?

I saw a stupid woman.Her mind didn’t take her very far — it stopped exactly where her desire to hurt me began.

I saw an unstable woman.How can a woman be if she can’t control her emotions?Because jealousy is also an emotion — and a destructive one.

In this case, we’re talking about an emotionally unstable woman — a woman who seeks revenge because of how she feels. A woman who cannot control herself and doesn’t care about the feelings of those around her.

The only important thing is what she feels, what she wants, and how amazing she thinks she is.And if things don’t go her way — she gets revenge.

Such a woman often starts all kinds of fights.She loves scandal more than peace.She doesn’t know how to communicate — because she lets herself be guided entirely by her emotions.

She is an insecure woman. She doesn't trust herself. If she felt threatened by someone else, it’s because she is a woman who does not trust her own strength and resorts to tricks and artificial fireworks to feel beautiful. This is not just a psychological state, it’s a strategy of survival for someone who has no internal validation.

She used to wear a lot of makeup, use all kinds of accessories and superficial tricks – not out of creativity, but to manufacture an image she could tolerate. From a psychological perspective, this is a classic case of low self-esteem with compensatory behaviors (Baumeister, 2001). The more fragile the internal image, the more elaborate the external mask. But this mask doesn’t stay personal – it becomes a tool of aggression.

Such a woman sabotages others and harms them – and that reveals her limited abilities. Sabotage is never a neutral act: it is chosen when rising through merit is no longer possible. She harms others because she cannot rise above her level, and the ones she attacks are clearly above her. This is pure horizontal aggression, a phenomenon well documented in organizational psychology, where the weak attack peers instead of challenging authority or bettering themselves (Freire, 1993).

She hurts others through sabotage precisely because she knows she can’t hurt them directly. And when she succeeds in causing pain, she feels pleasure. That’s why she is not just insecure – she is toxic. She feeds on destruction, not because she is strong, but because she is empty. In toxic psychology, this aligns with the dark triad traits – particularly malicious envy, which is destructive and compulsive in social dynamics (Lange et al., 2018).

Such a woman always hurts people who do not obey her desires. She constantly needs praise and validation that she is beautiful and extraordinary. But what she actually needs is someone to fix what’s broken inside her. And because she doesn’t have that, she searches for it obsessively – often outside of her relationship, because attention is her only form of fuel. She is starving for male validation.

A man’s gaze is her therapy – and that gaze must follow her everywhere. It becomes clear: a woman who begs for attention to feel confident is exhausting. That is why such a woman is not just emotionally draining, but morally ugly. No makeup can hide that. As the expression goes, “From what you run, you cannot escape.”

She wants proof that she’s not ugly, that she’s wonderful. But she proves the opposite – through her acts. She reveals herself as limited, foolish, and incapable of kindness. She becomes the mirror of her own fears. She becomes the thing she tries to deny. So let me tell you something real.

That colleague who hurt me – and smiled every time she did – she didn’t just hurt me. She hurt others too. And eventually, they found out. Because you cannot hide cruelty forever. As another expression says, “You do harm, and bad things will follow you.” Karma is real – and it doesn’t miss.

And if you’re wondering how I solved the problem with my saboteur – I did nothing. I let it solve itself. I let people see her. I let the truth reveal itself. I changed jobs. Twice. And one of the reasons was her.

How stupid can someone be to sabotage another person in not just one place, but in two? And she did it with ambition. My first job was in Germany. The second – in Japan. She didn’t stop. She tried to hurt me again, from a distance, with no reason. But she had one obsession: me.

At my second job, she spread rumors. She accused me of racism. She dramatized every move – even when I didn’t speak to her. She followed me during my breaks. She sent others to ask me personal questions. Why? To find weaknesses. To sabotage.

She thought I wouldn’t notice. At the beginning, I didn’t even know her name. But here’s the truth: you cannot win against a saboteur by becoming like her. Fighting evil with evil attracts more evil. Negativity multiplies.

If she had been someone who challenged me intellectually, emotionally – that would have been something else. But why confront someone like her, when I can do more, and she proved that I can?

I dedicate this content to her – the woman who sabotaged me twice. You can run, but you cannot hide. Karma will find you. And thank you, sincerely, for showing me that I’m better than you.

If you want revenge – the smart way is this. Wait. Be patient. Let them destroy themselves. Because they will.

And you know what? She was pretty. Without makeup. Prettier than me. She had more success with men. When a man flirts with me, I wonder what’s wrong with him. I’m always the last to realize if someone likes me. Even though I know a lot about male behavior, when it’s about me, my brain freezes. After it’s over, I realize: oh… he was flirting.

So no – she had no reason to be jealous. If success means stealing someone’s man – she won. But I’m not like that. I’m not that kind of woman.

Besides, I’m not even his type. He likes beautiful and stupid women. And I am something above them.